When we go through a traumatic event such as this, things are twice as hard for us without support. We need it, as human beings. Support can come from our families, or friends, our thr*pists, support GROUPS, our churches (whatever your belief system).

Three members of my family have been my greatest support. They have helped bolster my spirit, weather the flashbacks and the pain, and offer understanding, comfort, or just plain hugs or hand holding. My mom, sister and brother-in-law have helped hold me together in some of my darkest times.

My church has helped as well. My Pastors have both been supportive, reassuring and willing to help in any way they can.

God has often been my support and refuge. I admit to being human, and during the worst of times, my faith DOES waver. I have felt my relationship with God strain. I have doubted. This is a human thing. I don't claim to have the answers. But I can admit I always go back in prayer. Even after my worst bouts with doubt and fear, I return, contrite, and realize my doubts are just human frailty, and that God does love me, and suffers with me.

But this isn't a place for me to 'preach', it's about Support.

You must talk to someone, at some point, this is essential. I did not say it was easy, but it is something eventually, all Survivors must face. And finding friends, family or a ther*pist who will support you is one of the best allies to the Healing process.

If at all possible, try to distance yourself from those who are NOT supportive, or who are actually harmful to your recovery. Sometimes this is hard, or even impossable, but where possible, don't put up with any crap from any body. This is about YOU! Not them. YOUR needs must come first now. For some people placing themselves first is a hardship in and of itself.

IF you cannot find support within your family, circle of friends, church, or through counseling, there are places online where you can 'chat' with fellow Survivors. With people who have BEEN there, who understand, and who do care.

These links can also be found on the "Resources" page.

If you are really in DIRE need of someone to talk to, or are feeling like hurting yourself --For free, confidential counseling, call the RAINN hotline at 1-800-656-HOPE. Trained counselors are available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.

To visit RAINN's website, click here.

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